Mom 2 Mom is a recurring post the will feature influential Moms who are making strides in their careers and communities while managing the tests and trials of motherhood. We’ll discuss parenting, careers, and work life balance all through the eyes of today’s featured mom, Chelsea Ervin. We met through a mutual friend (hey Bestie Boo!), and we have admired each other ever since. Chelsea is a 34-year-old mom of two boys, ages 9 and 12. She has been a high school teacher for 11 years but has several other side businesses. She’s passionate, caring, and funny. Introducing…Chelsea.
You’ve built a career teaching high school students, but what is your “dream” job?
My dream job is to become a full-time entrepreneur by creating and opening a ONE-STOP-SHOP for health and wellness purposes. My ultimate goal is to help people in different ways. Becoming an entrepreneur will allow me to be more flexible and have more time for my boys, including their academics and extracurricular activities.
On the way to your “dream” job, you’ve created a few side hustles. What are they?
Getting to my dream job would include physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental clarity, so in order to achieve this, I have quite a few side jobs that hopefully will all come together when the time is right. To date, I am a mobile massage therapist, a certified microblading specialist, a certified eyelash extension specialist, fashion consultant, freelance photographer, business consultant; I create organic body scrubs, and I’m a soon-to-be Houston Realtor. WHEW! I know right, but mark my words, the vision will come to pass. Just wait on it and #StayTuned.
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WOW! That’s a full life. How do you manage a “work-life balance”?
I usually keep it all together with structured planning. I’m usually at work (the high school) from 6:45am-3:30pm. Then, I go pick up the boys from each of their schools. They automatically know to come in and hop in the shower. From there, they eat an afternoon snack. During this time, I’m already in the kitchen making dinner, unless we have leftovers, or I’ve decided to order take out. I take my shower while the food is on low and we proceed to do homework. If one of them has an assignment that I know they’re capable of completing on their own, I will allow that while I work with the other on a new concept or something that’s proving to be difficult for them. We eat; then I try to allow them to have tv time or gaming time for 30 mins to an hour. Between 9:00pm and 9:30pm, everything has to shut down and everyone goes to bed.
As far as my businesses are concerned, I try to reserve certain days for certain services. For example, Monday-Thursday I’m available for at least one massage therapy client. Friday-Sunday I take a maximum of 2-5 clients. Now for eyelash extensions, microblading, fashion/business consulting, I usually set aside just one or two days a week to fit all of those clients on (i.e.- microblading Monday, eyelash extension Tuesdays, etc.). I reserve certain days and time due to the fact that I understand that I have to live by my own words and philosophies that I give to others which is to take time for yourself in order to refresh and renew physical and mental capacities. I do this by spending as much time with my family as I possibly can.
Speaking of family, how would you describe your parenting style?
I am very strict, however, I also have somewhat of a Democratic perspective. I set the rules and the tone, but I also sit down with my children and come up with “contract” (for lack of a better term) to reinforce self-accountability concepts. I want them to understand when they break the rules there will be consequences. I’m teaching them that sometimes everything is not to be looked at as a negative or a punishment, but a learning opportunity. God allows us multiple chances when we mess up, so why shouldn’t we allow our children chances to right their wrongs when they mess up. When we love like Him, it’s easy to do.
That is so true, and I totally agree. In your experience, what is the best part about being a Mom? I don’t think that I can just narrow it down to just one main thing. Both of my boys add so much value and joy to my life in a variety of ways. I can say that I’ve had MAJOR GROWTH since first becoming a mother 12 years ago. At this stage in their lives, I enjoy that they feel free to be open with their dialogue with me. Many kids in today’s society don’t feel that way or don’t even have that opportunity, so the fact that my boys appreciate my presence because they see all of my efforts and sacrifices warms my heart like no other.
What advice would you give to your younger Mom self?
I would say stop trying to people please and appease. Don’t let anyone discourage you about what you feel is right in doing for the betterment of yourself and child(ren). Don’t procrastinate. Don’t allow anyone to try to live vicariously through you. It’s okay to be cautious for your children; it’s not being selfish; it’s called being A PARENT! God has sent us here as protectors of our seed, so don’t allow anyone to convince you that you are less than for not letting them be around your baby. Don’t be afraid to ask for help (especially if you truly need it).
I remember getting so burned out because I thought I was SuperWoman and could do it all, but I DIDN’T HAVE TO. If you have a strong support system, please utilize them, just don’t take advantage of them. Once you have children, you have to prioritize and sacrifice a lot of things or ways you had when you were living life “as you once were”. That means you can’t make every party, every club engagement, every Girls’ Night Out, every date a man may want to take you on (even if it is your husband). You have to be there to nurture your seed; instill in them the things they will need in order to succeed in life. Most importantly, TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF! You cannot effectively parent or be any good to anyone if you don’t refresh and rejuvenate your mind, body, and soul.
Have you ever thought “I can’t do this” and why?
I think this ALL of the time. I believe because I grew up with low self-esteem and endured a couple of abusive relationships that I have more self-doubt. I also attribute this perspective to my medical history. In 2016, I suffered two TIAs (Transient Ischemic Attack– simply put “two mild strokes”). As a result, I sometimes suffer with physical limitations on the left side of my body, and also some cognitive setbacks as far as taking a little more time to process information before being able to act on it or needing things to be repeated multiple times which was never the case before. All-in-all, I actually have chosen to try to stay positive about it and look at the bright side, which is 1. I’m still living to tell the story, and 2. It’s motivating me to share with others and then not only create an open platform where it’s comfortable to face fears, but also to push forth in entrepreneurship and public speaking.
Lastly, what words of wisdom do you live by?
I often tell my students to “Stop counting the days and make the days count”. I personally choose to keep Romans 8:28 and Jeremiah 29:11 in the forefront of my mind. My faith fuels everything that I desire to do in terms of helping others. It truly requires a “faith over fear” mentality.
Chelsea is an amazing Mom who puts her love for her family on display. She is a sweet soul who has a heart for serving and helping others. We share similar views on parenting and I truly admire her entrepreneurial ambition. I hope that her story is just as inspiring to you.