I recently had lunch with almost a dozen beautiful women who all happen to be mothers. We came from different walks of life, various ethnicities, and a variety of career journeys. We spent about four hours eating a delicious brunch that we didn’t have to share with little people and drinking beverages that I have renamed as MOMosas. Our conversation covered every possible topic ranging from the light-hearted, “What shows should we binge watch?” to the serious, “How do you deal with the Mom guilt?” I had a wonderful time with these women, most of whom I have never met, and I gained so much from them.
Listening to their wisdom and experience had me to reflect on some of the things I’ve learned:
- Kids get bigger, but my budget didn’t.
- It’s okay to bring your sexy back. You were a whole woman BEFORE you had kids!
- Love is an action word.
- You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be committed.
And even though I have eleven years worth of experiences, I still have a few #MomGoals to aim for:
- Bedtime. The ultimate goal is a consistent bedtime… for all my children. I can also count myself successful if the kids make it to bedtime unharmed and still breathing. #Winning
- Working Nine to Wine. My fellow working moms will high-five me on this. Getting through a day of working with adults who sometimes act like children, then to come home and survive my actual children is definitely a reason to celebrate. Bedtime is the goal and wine is the reward. #Wine-ing (LOL)
- More girl time with my daughters. I love spending time with them, but I rarely do the girly stuff, like getting our nails polished. It’s an easy goal that I can check off the list today.
Children don’t come with a user guide or owner’s manual. But how many times do we wish that they did! Kids will test you, jump up and down on your LAST nerve, and make you want to consume an entire bottle of wine. But we’ve got to keep fighting.. For our sanity. Here are a few affirmations to help you stay focused on the end goal.
- I will attract the type of Mom tribe that can support me while I support them.
- I will be gentle with myself when I make a “mistake”.
- I am a blessing to my children.
- I am creating positive, lifelong memories with my children.
Here is the one thing I think the “brunching Mommas” could all could agree on – Motherhood is hard, but we wouldn’t change it. There are so many things to consider when becoming a mom. And even when we think we have considered a lot, there is even more that we don’t think about. For example, I certainly didn’t endure six hours of labor only to end up arguing with a miniature version of myself on why fruit snacks is not an acceptable choice for breakfast. Challenges and unforeseen circumstances lurk around every corner. But still, like air, we’ll rise.