Stay In Your Lane
It’s wild in these Houston streets. Traffic is bad; tempers are high, and patience is low. Thousands of our friends and neighbors struggle through the all-day “rush” hour only to move nowhere fast. Even the best of us can find ourselves swerving in and out of traffic or getting distracted by the 3-car pile up. But the one thing that we all have to remember is to stay in your own lane.
This doesn’t just apply to our daily commute; it applies to our daily lives. How often do we find ourselves paying more attention to someone else’s business that we lose focus on our own? Oh. That’s not you. Ok. Then how often do we find ourselves getting sucked into someone else’s business without our consent or approval?
Let me encourage you to join “Mind Your Business Ministries” as Sarah Jakes Roberts likes to say. Help everyone be great by supporting the need for boundaries. Make it your business to mind your own business. As a matter of fact, the Bible even tells us to mind our own business:
10 And in fact, you do love all of God’s family throughout Macedonia. Yet we urge you, brothers and sisters, to do so more and more, 11 and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you, 12 so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody. – 1 Thessalonians 4:10-12
Since you know you should stay in your lane, here are a few reminders while you’re on the road:
- Keep your eyes on the road. Avoid having conversations with others that only focuses on someone else’s situation. It’s one thing to voice concern, but it’s a completely different thing to talk about it for over an hour with your BFF. And if your concern is that deep, pray for that person and their situation. You can’t change it but your prayers CAN!
- Adjust Your Mirrors to Cover Your Blind Spots. Sometimes we can judge someone without knowing the story, the details, or the reasons. You don’t want anyone judging you and your choices, so stop doing it to others. Being judgmental could be a character flaw, but it can be changed! Focus your energy on making the best choices for yourself and your family. Adjust your mirrors so you can focus more on you and less on them.
- Keep at least one car length away. Give people the space to make their own mistakes and create their own solutions. If they think you aren’t supporting them because you have decided not to jump in, explain that taking a step back is how you choose to support them. Your love is still there for them, even from across the street.
- You are NOT a tow truck! You can not run to the rescue for everyone and try to save them out of every battle. We especially tend to do that for friends and family out of a sense of obligation or loyalty, but that’s not our job.
Your future success is a direct correlation to your ability to stay in your own lane. Keep your eyes on the road and your mirrors adjusted. Keep at least one car length between you and others. And definitely, watch out for those with road rage. You’ll be happier when you make it to your destination faster and safer because you focused on yourself by minding your own business and staying in your lane.