With spelling words, my first grader confuses her B’s and her D’s. A lot. (See exhibit A.) We have worked with her over several months to correct this, but she still gets confused. If you listen to the child, she would tell you that her teacher tells the class that even though they get confused, she will still count the word “correct” because she’s knows what they mean. *insert my side eye here*
I get it. Spelling is hard. The teacher doesn’t want the students to stress over the B/D issue. While this might be accepted in first grade, I know that second grade won’t be kind. So, I had a come to Jesus conversation with my first grader, and my point was this:
You won’t be in first grade forever where you get credit for trying. In second grade, it will be marked as “wrong” because it is. You have spelled these words incorrectly. As a parent, my job is to help you fix your mistakes now while you are at home in front of people who don’t pass out grades. You should say to yourself: Self, I am excited about the opportunity to fix my mistakes at home where Mommy doesn’t give me grades.”
(I know this is a stretch Parents, but I was on a roll.)
But isn’t that how God wants us to be! God wants us to come to Him first. Let Him help us fix our mistakes because He doesn’t keep score, or a count, or a record of them. He allows us to come back to Him time and time again, correct the action, and then go out and try again without judgement. Now ask yourself, how many times are you actually EXCITED about that? Do you consider it an opportunity to correct your mistakes, or a burden to even admit you were wrong in the first place?
Parenting is hard, but I also imagine that God, our Father, considers it a challenge some days too. LOL. His children don’t listen. They are disrespectful. They always want to do it their way, and it is ONLY when He makes us sit down that we are actually forced to be still and pay attention.
Here is our challenge: pay attention to what is happening in your life. If things don’t seem to be lining up, stop and ask God if this is what He had in mind for you. Do you have an action that you need to correct? Guess what? You have time to correct it! Have you been writing B’s where there should be D’s? In order to get to the next level, it will require us to move passed someone else’s willingness to give us a pass. Some of us are giving ourselves the pass! It’s time to move forward. It’s time to fix the mistakes and get promoted to the next level. #TeamNoSummerSchool
And as for the first grader, it remains to be seen if she accepted my pep talk and changes her approach to the way she spells words. The proof will be in the weekly spelling test. Just as our proof will be in a test as well. Get ready because class is in session.